Here is the next part taken from my book Creating A Bug Free Mind written in 2010.
It’s quite a big section as there is a lot to break down in this part of removing fear.
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THE BIG ONE… Fear Of Failure
~ The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure. ~
Sven Goran Eriksson
I do not think that there is any greater fear or road block in the personal development world than this one. I intended to keep this one short, but there is a lot of depth to removing this obstacle, so this section goes on longer than most. However, if you do fear failure, then this should put that to bed for you. If it doesn’t on the first read through, by the tenth, over a period of ten days then it surely will!
What I am going to share here may not be enough for you yet though, as you may be so unconscious when you are consumed by this state, that no words will be able to penetrate your self-imposed barrier to them. However, I see a very positive outcome for you if you are able to remain present and absorb them. (There is no-one that this will not work for who allows themselves to absorb and accept it… As always, I’ll open the door, but you have to walk through.)
It is also a huge roadblock elsewhere in the world as well. I am writing this in my hotel room whilst at an excellent seminar hosted by my friend Mark Anastasi, which has around 400 people at. Yesterday, I saw some more excellent speakers and I know I will see some more today who will teach me the way they are doing things to achieve their success. No matter how much I look into success, I have still found no quicker way than to purchase a system for a fraction of its true value, make it work, then adapt and improve on it to suit myself once it is working. I have never achieved all I could with any system I purchased. Yet mine is a different mindset to most…
I saw one guy yesterday who offered what, in my opinion, was a near perfect business model for someone to escape their job and produce at least £100k a year almost overnight. In fact overnight.
He laid it out really well – I know the techniques and am using them myself, but he had nailed it brilliantly and systemised it. I saw that this opportunity would replace people’s jobs instantly. It would lead them into a new world where they would discover that they never needed to worry about a job or making money again. Effectively this quick success would shortcut them to a new mindset.
Well, he pitched his service and the usual 5–12% went ahead and purchased. However, I spoke with 4 people later in the day at different times - each one told me how they wanted to find a way to quit their job and they needed to find the answer quickly. I told each that there was their answer. All they needed to do was apply that and they would generate revenue within hours of applying it. Forget the money as that was easily obtainable, e.g. find someone with the money but no time and offer them a JV. This isn’t rocket science, it is just thinking outside the box. If they ‘want’ it easier, then pitch the ones at the back of the room to partner with them… could it get any easier to buy a business system?
Successful people who live without fear always look for solutions. Those who live in fear always find problems.
However, back to the story…
There’s None So Blind As Those Who Cannot See
What I mean by this is their fear of failure is holding them back. In this exact instance, it’s not that they didn’t know what to do, it’s just they were afraid they’d end up worse off than they are now. Of course they were initially – they may have been completely unconscious to the fact that someone, who makes money like a by-product of being awake, was telling them that this was a solution which will work for them.
They all said to me, I’m just looking for the solution. I said to them look, here it is, everywhere you look in this environment is a vein of gold. I said repeatedly it is right at your feet, you just have to buy and pick (the course) and start digging. To which they all individually said yes, then were immediately re-consumed by their mind’s control over them to solve their unconscious thought, (which was of course the fear that after purchase they would end up worse off than they are now).
And they were of course correct. They ‘believed’ they would be worse off, so if they purchased the course that I know was a certain success, they would still find a way of bringing their ‘beliefs’ into reality. They, and probably you too, ‘believe’ you are conscious when you look at opportunities, but that’s when you are most likely to sink back into an old pattern.
Because it is not that you don’t know what to do, it is just that you are afraid that you’ll be worse off than you are now. They were worried about spending £2,000 to buy a business model that had 100% money back guarantee on… Are they insane? Well of course they are!
But fear of failure needs to be understood, which is among other things why most who buy products at seminars do not go on to emulate the success of the product creators. A few do; the ones who either got inspired, had a system to roll it out, or already understand that the payment is a fraction of the upside, so act knowing that success is certain. It is my intention to attend a seminar and have a system in place so that I may purchase all products and roll them out. When I do, all will work - some will work big time and some will work to a massive scale. Do you get the point? Success is more certain with a system. I ride on the back of giants wherever I can.
However, because most are unconscious, even though their egos are willing to accept it is obvious that this is the way to do it, they cannot escape their unconsciousness. After all, could you escape a prison you didn’t know you were in?
Reading this now, you can clearly see an expert is saying, “I’ve done this and here it is”. Another (me) is saying I’ve done this too, it really works. That’s enough of a waypoint isn’t it? Hell, I’ve gone into opportunities that have had 1/100th of the support or research than that, as I’ll demonstrate later.
But none of the four I spoke with took any action. They all ‘hoped’ the solution would be presented tomorrow. They ‘hoped’ that the next vein of gold would be more clearly marked and that it may even have their name on it… this is fear of failure disguised as research.
To emphasise the point:-
Joseph was flat broke and he prayed to his God to let him win the lottery; “Please god, let me win the lottery…my wife and family are starving God. I have never asked for anything from you, but I ask this… please relieve my money worries and let me win the lottery.”
The lottery came and he did not win; “Please god, this week my situation has become far worse, my wife has left me and my mother needs an operation. I am your loyal and faithful servant Lord. I have never asked anything from you. Please let me win the lottery so that I may get my wife back and help my mother out.”
The lottery came and he did not win; “Please, please God, this time you must listen. I do not know what I have done to offend you; I have been loyal for my whole life lord. I have given happily to you always, yet now even my dog is sick and my family are all in trouble. I cannot even see my children and I ask you for help lord, yet you forsake me and leave me with nothing. Please tell me what have I done to offend you so? Please Lord, please let me win the lottery so that I may help those around me.”
At this point the heavens opened and a great booming voice came down; “Joseph… Meet me halfway…. Buy a ticket!”
Do you see what I mean? These people could attend 100 seminars and never see what is in front of them, which is a real shame as one of them is a very good friend. Yet, even if they finally did take action through pure desperation (which I am sure many who bought and will buy a system reached that exact point), they would probably manage to choose something that was not right. Then they would still fail and be able to say, see I tried this and it failed, so I was right!
This is such childlike behaviour and is endemic of a person who lives in fear of failure. If something has a 100% guarantee or better, it means that there is no risk. If it comes with payment via a credit card it means you can get your money back within 18 months, so there is no risk.
DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?!
So we are not talking about a financial risk, we are talking about a missed opportunity risk (i.e. something else) or a cost of your own time.
So you’ve already missed countless opportunities in your life, therefore, you may as well get going now. It does not matter if a better vein of gold can be discovered, you have already found a gold mine! All you need to do is to dig it out of the ******* ground.
Conclusion: there is no missed opportunity cost.
But how about a cost of your own time? The Universe conspires to help those that take action. Your learning curve, whether it works or not, is worth a fortune. To have to give up 5 hours of TV a week to do a hobby instead, which should remove your need to work full time, is not work! Is it!?!?! Stop looking at it as if it is and start looking at it as if it is your hobby, then you’ll like it and make a success of it.
Conclusion: there is no cost to your own time, as you can’t really be serious and ‘want’ freedom, if you consider the loss of watching 5 hours of telly a week, a cost to you. If you do then maybe you should either give up trying to improve your life or go back to the start of this book and start reading again.
Final conclusion to whether you would end up worse off than you are now. So there’s no money risk, there’s no missed opportunity cost and there’s no loss of valuable time. Conclusion: to not take action is therefore unconscious inaction.
Hang on - did I hear you say the word but? That ‘but’ came from your ego and if you said but, you are still predominantly in an unconscious state. Hold 15 seconds of positive thought now; get present, be grateful for what you have in life and start reading this section again. There is no point you going any further if you said but, and the rest of this section will have no value for you unless you are present.
OK, Now What We Have To Do Is Break Down The Barriers To It
Did your ego force you to carry on reading as it wouldn’t be told what to do, or were you conscious enough to observe your ego? Whatever you chose to do, it is of course your choice and there is nothing more I desire for you than to make you rich.
Would you like me to give you a formula for success?
It’s quite simple – double your rate of failure. – Thomas J Watson, IBM founder.
As I mentioned in an earlier chapter, I have a friend (yes I do!) who was round recently and he said to me, “What is your goal at the moment?” And I said, “I ‘want’ to fail more. I am not effective enough at failing and I ‘want’ to increase the speed at which I fail.”
At the start of a business opportunity, I have never ever experienced fear of failure. I have experienced fear of loss when it went wrong but I have never been afraid at the start. People allow their fears to stop them to the point of absolute failure because they are afraid of making mistakes. Why? Simple, we have been programmed since childhood not to make a mistake.
However, this is the natural state for us to be in to learn. We learnt to walk by failing and making mistakes, we learnt to speak by making mistakes and failing to pronounce words. If you are trapped in a job that you don’t like then you are paralysed by your fear of being worse off by your actions than you are right now.
However, there are good mistakes and bad mistakes, i.e. two types. There are mistakes of ambition and mistakes of procrastination. The first is the result of a decision to take action. This type of mistake is my favourite and is made because I have acted with incomplete information and discovered a new way to fail.
It is of course impossible to have all of the facts beforehand. This sort of mistake is a good thing and is to be prized as it serves as a signpost. Usually, from these initial mistakes, the actual correct path is found. But if you never stepped on to the wrong path (because you feared failure and mistakes), then of course you would never find the correct one. Mistakes of this sort are to be encouraged. Fortune favours the bold. Or another way to describe it is: active people ‘get lucky!’
The second type of mistake is decision of sloth (to procrastinate). This is where we literally refuse to change a bad situation in our lives out of fear. This is despite even having all of the facts. The popular phrase for this is analysis paralysis. It is how bad relationships become bad marriages and how poor job choices become prison sentences, which last longer than a sentence for murder!
So if this is you then aren’t you fed up living this way?
Ready, Fire, Aim
~ Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. ~
Les Brown
Did you realise that you can read one book, or even just a report, and know 75% to 80% about a niche in just a matter of a few hours? If you treble your research to reading three books then you may know 85%. Treble it again and you’re at 89%ish. Treble it again and you’re at 92%ish. Treble it again and you’re at 93%ish. It can then take you a few years to know 95% of your chosen market/area of interest, a few decades to know 97% and maybe a lifetime to know 98%.
However, you can learn around 80% in just a few hours. In most exams 80–85% is an ‘A’ grade. In my pilot exams (the last exams I ever took), the passing grade was 80%. I achieved 95% and my instructor said I had wasted 15% of my time!
He was wrong though wasn’t he?
Well let’s see. We’ll apply his thinking to starting a business or whatever else we ‘want’ to go into ‘professionally’. He would probably do more than a few hours research and say achieve the 85% level. He would now know more than 99% of his prospective customers. He could/would learn more along the way when he found out that this business was worth being in.
Business isn’t about knowing everything. It is about knowing more than vast majority of your target market. And as you know somewhere between 1 and 85% more then you qualify. Some customers may have anecdotal information about your niche (10–20%). Some may have done more research and know 50–70%. However, you know more, or you are ‘perceived’ to know more. With this knowledge you should not procrastinate.
Do you think lack of knowledge of the search engine market stopped the guys who set up Google? Do you think lack of knowledge about the social media sites slowed the guy up who set up Facebook? Of course not. They knew at best 75–85% and got going.
A Short Story About My First Online Business
When I launched my first membership site, the first thing I did was to write a sales letter to gauge if people would pay for membership to hear the ramblings of a property investor. At the end of the first day I had taken the first payments at a discounted rate. People could get access to the site that wasn’t ready yet for half price if they bought now. It told me that there was an interest in what I was doing.
I left the unfinished site up for approximately three months and took in nearly £20,000 of membership payments. When I first wrote the sales letter, I had never even been on a membership site, not ever! After a month or so of selling places, I thought I had better go and find out what one of these things was.
I thought, wow they are great for people, but everyone I checked out was full of sarcasm and negativity. People were used to sites being that way. Well, I know and you know now for sure, after reading about negativity and what a killer that is to success, that negativity shouldn’t be on a site where people go to create wealth – Anything other than constructive criticism is a backwards step for all concerned.
So of course with my complete lack of knowledge – 55% maximum knowledge I’d guess – I set up a site. I started to set it up 13 days before it actually went live, something like 7 months after I had taken my first sale. Then when it went live there was virtually nothing there. I flailed forward and learnt on the way. I would say at best now I still only know 87–91% of this business but I have been in it for about 4 years.
If you asked anyone then, I would be considered an expert. However, you now know that I am not an expert as I’ve let the cat out of the bag! My definition of an expert is someone who knows 95%+. I am what is known as a ‘perceived expert’ in the field of membership sites. However, I still know more than the vast majority and could carve out a career for myself teaching what I know.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I would say I am an expert (95%+) in property, health, nutrition, mindset and personal development. I would say I am almost an expert (91-93%) in making money, online marketing (general), marketing and business. I would say I am on the way to being an expert in various other areas.
The point is that good enough is good enough; ready, fire, aim. My friend Phil said to me, “Andy, when we did the membership site, you never applied ready, fire, aim. You said ready, fire… you never aimed!” The point is that your fear of failure is keeping you anchored to the ground. I expect to fail and then learn how to do things after I have taken action (not before). I design failure in as an essential part of my success from the start.
Take these books and all the new software tools I’ve designed for making it easy for people to create their life by design. Do you think they will be an instant success? They will almost certainly not be, I will have put a year of my life into them and they will almost certainly stumble at the start. However, over a period of three to six months I will learn to walk and within a year I will be running. Why? Because I know, and you will shortly know, the value of what I am sharing. But some failure will be necessary on the road to success. Do you think it all went swimmingly for the guy who set up Facebook? Or do you think he stumbled a few times first?
Another thing Phil said to me was that if we had got everything in place and spent two years in preparation, then we could not have learnt what we learnt. But just by taking action we acquired the remaining knowledge we required in a matter of weeks, whereas a procrastinator would have taken several years and lost momentum. There are only 1% of businesses that do this and succeed.
Don’t overestimate others and underestimate yourself. I was not, and still am not, an expert at membership sites. There are plenty of non-experts out there in all walks of life who are making a success of it because their fear of failure is either non-existent or managed.
‘Proper Failing’
~ The things you fear are undefeatable, not by their nature, but by your approach ~
Jewel Kiltcher
Life is a scavenger hunt. You have to collect things on your way through and get to the finish line having done as much as you can. Everyone crosses the finish line but ‘proper failing’ is when you could have done more in the time allowed.
I know hundreds, if not thousands, of people who have opted for ‘proper’ failing. Because their ego has convinced them that after they started xyz business and it failed, this means they are not good enough to succeed! They built a multi-million pound business, yet just because it failed they are not good enough. This is their ego trying to protect them from danger. Do you know though that they are completely right? The test of ‘will you continue or give up’ has been taken and they failed it. They ‘proper’ failed.
The general public believe that failing is when something doesn’t work, and of course they are right, but there is a world of difference between failing and ‘proper’ failing which the general public doesn’t even realise exists. This knowledge is only understood by the 1%. I am sharing this knowledge with you now and you therefore ‘believe’ you possess it. However, this knowledge comes with a price. The knowledge has to be earned through understanding. You, at the moment, possess the knowledge of it. Knowledge without action means that you can teach but cannot do. There is a world of difference: possessing the knowledge is the start, understanding it makes the difference.
If you ‘want’ to understand this knowledge then you have to get off your backside and start applying it. As an example, when I set my goal of being a millionaire in 2 years and achieved multi-millionaire in property investing in under 7 months, I had never read a book on the subject of either goal setting or property investing. I went into the world of property without any prior knowledge.
I was amazed to find out after I had bought at least £12,000,000’s worth or 74 properties in my first year, that there were books that told you how to do what I had done. I had no idea. A lack of knowledge did not hold me back. I acquired the knowledge I required by analysing and knowing more about one specific area. In fact I did far more research than I probably needed to do. I acquired around 91% knowledge when 70% would have been enough to get an ‘A’ grade.
Everyone, with the single exception of my wife, tried to tell me that I shouldn’t go into property investing as I was not an expert. Do you know the one thing that everyone I spoke to had in common? None of them were experts in the area I was going into, therefore their advice was useless. However, if it hadn’t been for my wife’s support, I nearly ended up listening to it. The moral of the story is, be careful who you go to for advice.
Don’t Confuse A Large Bank Balance With An Abundant Mindset
The 1% - the millionaires who are forward thinkers, not the millionaires who are afraid they will lose what they have created, think that failure you learn from is good! The remainder of people think failure is bad. Don’t confuse a pile of money with a success mentality.
Ignorance can make money too. The problem with making money and not being aware, is that you can end up with the mindset (as I did) of being protective of what you have created, and therefore enact the law of attraction to work against you. I.e. whatever you protect against becomes your reality. What I should have done was ignore protection and focus on creation because you get more of whatever think or focus on.
Watch And Protect Your Language
~ Every man, through fear, mugs his aspirations a dozen times a day. ~
Brendan Francis
Watch what you say about yourself. Never speak of yourself, your affairs, or of anything else in fact in a discouraging way. Look for the positive before opening one’s ‘gob’. If you can’t find a positive then simply say nothing at all. As every thought and word either takes you toward where you ‘want’ to go, or away from it. Nothing stands still, therefore if it isn’t helping you, it’s hurting you.
Analyse your conversation with a good friend. Watch the patterns of your communication and see if you have a pattern of discouragement to yourself and especially to others. Saying something bad about yourself is bad enough even if it is unconscious. But saying it about someone else is terrible! As the way things work, whatever you put out comes back to you magnified. So thinking and saying bad things about others really damages you and holds you back.
If you are being questioned by someone and you have nothing good that you can say about another, then either say, ‘I really have nothing to add here’. Or if you realise that by you not saying anything, then the person talking to you is going to probably have a bad experience, you could offer some good advice. Say something like, “Before I would act I would research ‘this’ element.” Unless invited to, I ‘try’ and avoid commenting or even thinking about others’ situations, as it is none of my business and how would this benefit my life? It benefits my life when I am invited in and not before.
However, that is not callous as I spend a huge amount of my time thinking, how I can demonstrate what I do to increase the wealth of the people I get to touch? I just never intend to force things upon people but offer them the knowledge which gives them the opportunity to make an informed decision themselves.
Never Speak Of Failure
~ An inferiority complex is a conviction by a jury of your fears. ~
Unknown
Even great books can get it wrong at times, or rather can mislead at times. In his book the Science of Getting Rich, Wallace Wattles says “never admit the possibility of failure or speak in a way that implies failure as a possibility”. Now the reader would, could, should interpret that to be correct and me to be wrong as I am happy to speak of failure. I see failure as a good thing, as did people like Henry Ford and Walt Disney. Wallace didn’t necessarily write the book with someone like me in mind.
However this is an example of the bad teaching which we have to be careful of. This is where you need to read between the lines and also form your own opinion from logic. Wallace wasn’t even talking about what I refer to as ‘proper’ failure. He was saying do not allow a negative thought in. What I am saying is never allow a thought to remain which is negative. A thought is just a thought. It either moves you toward something or away from it. Wallace was actually intending the same as me, he just didn’t describe it in a way which the 99% of people would understand.
If it doesn’t move you towards where you ‘want’ to go then merely observe the thought with the knowledge of looking at it and asking what benefit it has. Don’t judge it, just look at it. If it holds no value then it will dissolve without effort of any sort. So a negative thought is not to be feared; a negative thought is to be observed and recognised for what it is.
Avoid talking of times being hard or your business struggling as this merely attracts more of it. There is always enough business for those that stop thinking about the competitive plane. You can create the amount of business that you ‘want’, e.g. let’s say that there are two competitors in one industry. The recession comes and business slows to 75%. They compete with each other and one then fails whilst the other one has survived to fight another day.
This is normal and of course unconscious. However, if you ignore competition for a second and think differently, there is more than one way to keep your business increasing rather than decreasing. If you stop worrying about what the competition is doing then you effectively, on one level, have no competition.
On another level, you of course have competition. However, if you stop considering competition and your competitor doesn’t and instead he worries about competing with you, then you are focused on creation and he is really focused on protection. Therefore, you will win without competing as long as you apply sound principles like adding value, diversifying your product range, increasing the number of times your customers buy, are all applied.
Basically, you need to stop thinking the way we are trained to think about competition, as this is backward thinking. And the word competition is not a one size fits all word. There is healthy competition and bad competition in the same way as there is good and bad cholesterol. Basically, you can create what you desire and you are above fear. Remember it took me 7 years of martial arts to learn that I was only competing against myself.
Is There Any Need For Disappointment?
~ The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire, the size of your dream and how you handle disappointment along the way. ~
Robert Kiyosaki
People often expect me to be disappointed when something hasn’t worked. Why? As this is another opportunity to begin again more intelligently! Years ago, I don’t even remember when, it may have even been never, I must have stopped myself from feeling disappointed.
I hear people say, “Sssh! Let’s not say that as it may never happen if we talk about it!” This is when they either ‘want’ something good or don’t ‘want’ something bad. What they are saying is I ‘believe’ I have to be lucky for this to happen. I ‘believe’ if I keep quiet then it will happen. Maybe they are right as they are creating their future.
For me though, I keep quiet most of the time when surrounded by those who are unconscious, yet when I am in the presence of those who are experts or awake, then I will reveal my goals. Their views can help me attain my goals, so why would I remain silent?
Perhaps people don’t speak of things because they instinctively know that the unconscious masses will ‘try’ to negatively keep them down without realising. Like if you put crabs into a bucket and one tries to get out, then the other crabs will pull the positive thinking crab back in.
So never allow yourself to feel disappointed as your perceived failure is only apparent and merely you learning a better way! Everything will work out in the best possible way if you listen and learn the lessons you are being sent. Just evaluate your assumptions and observe your egos reactions to situations.
A great line I read somewhere was this: – If you are confused about life then you are not alone, there are almost 7 billion of us! This isn’t a problem of course once you realise that life is neither a problem to be solved nor a game to be won. Life just is and failure is a part of life. Failure is to be appreciated; ‘proper’ failure is to be accepted in others but totally unacceptable for ourselves.
Fear Of What Others May Think About You
~ The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing that you will make one. ~
Elbert Hubbard
People fail to quit their procrastination because they are concerned about what others think. What others think is totally, completely and absolutely irrelevant to us unless we require their help to move forward (do yourself a favour and don’t move on until you understand that no-one can harm you unless you give them permission to do so). So be bold and don’t ever ‘worry’ about what other people think. Other people seldom ‘proper’ think anyway.
People ‘worry’ about their mistakes and their failures, yet the only true ‘proper’ mistake in life is to be ignorant and not learn from our mistakes. In fact ignorance is the only real problem in the world; cure ignorance and every problem and every cause just dissolves. The answer to healing the world is of course replacing ignorance with the truth. Now there’s you and me and a few others which know this, so all we’ve got to do is convince nearly 7 billion unconscious people that this is the answer and we’re laughing!
You Are Where You Are, Accept It, As That’s Where You Wanted To Be
~ Fear is not your enemy. It is a compass pointing you to the areas where you need to grow. ~
Steve Pavlina
Stop and look at your life right now. Whether you like it or not, where you are is where you ‘want’ to be. You may have used unconscious thought to end up there, but you still created your life situation as it is. Once you are conscious your work is to remain conscious and stay present. While present we have the power of choice over all but two things. Those two things are that we must die and that we must live until we die. Everything else you have the choice to create.
A great quote I found was this, “Adults are always asking kids what they ‘want’ to be when they grow up because they are looking for ideas” – Paula Poundstone
To learn more about failure and how to lose your fear of it, just look at children under eight. Any five year old knows more about what they desire in life than nearly every single adult on the face of this planet! Look to the enlightened for education on enlightenment!
A fear of failing is a fear of living. Stop fearing living and start living your life as it really isn’t a dress rehearsal. Ask yourself if you died today then would you live in regret that you didn’t take action?
Well I wouldn’t because I have not had a fear of failure. I have had plenty of failures and plenty of successes. My successes have been some truly incredible feelings and they have provided me with a keen guide to how they can be repeated. Without those successes then I would still be looking for my first one. Without the countless failures I would not have ever found the successes. The only ‘proper’ failure is to not keep going.
Stop analysing, start acting, stop thinking you will fail, and above all else stop fearing it. There is NO Thing (nothing) to fear… as fear of course is just an illusion appearing to be real.
Time To Dissolve Your Fear Of Failure
~ He who fears something gives it power over him. ~
Moorish Proverb
Ok, let’s cut to the chase. It’s time to totally dissolve your fear of failure and give you absolute power over it. I know you ‘want’ that so I’ll also help you over the ‘want’ hurdle!
Just relax and imagine that you are inside your head observing your ego’s reactions.
Just observe them, do not judge them.
Are you there?
You are now reading this with 50% of your consciousness, and the other 50% is inside your head patiently waiting for a reaction.
Now relax and ask yourself, ‘What possible benefit can fear of failing have for me in helping me get to where I desire to go?’
Pause and think for just a few seconds…
If the answer was, ‘My fear is protecting me from danger,’ then you are unconscious and it was your ego who spoke (accept it and move towards consciousness or argue and stay where you are – it is now your choice).
Danger is not about fear, it is about understanding risks. Fear has no place there, ‘try’ again… Become conscious, feel the emotion as you ask, your thoughts will lie to you, your emotions will not.
Ask yourself, ‘What possible benefit can fear of failing have for me in helping me get to where I desire to go?’
The answer of course is none, but don’t judge yourself if you can’t agree with that yet. It may be that one of the earlier layers of crud that I showed you how to dissolve is still in place and needs to be removed before you can accept this as it is.
You now know what to do to dissolve destructive thought patterns. Just re-read and re-read until they are not there anymore (this really is the answer and your ego will not like it as it uses your fears to keep you restrained).
Fear of failure is just something that needs to be seen by you for the illusion it is and then you will no longer feel the need to have this fear anymore. In fact you will not feel anything about fear of failure as it is worthless to you and therefore it will just not be there anymore.
This is the biggest barrier in the ‘fears’ group and it is one of the biggest barriers of all. But when you see it for the illusion it is, which has been created by your mind, then it simply is no longer there….
People say to me, it takes courage to act without fear of failure, and I say there is no courage in this action. It takes no courage to overcome something that isn’t there.
Don’t be a ‘Proper’ failure… Fortune favours the bold!
Here again is a quote that may help you to pay attention, if you allow it to…
~ The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure ~
Sven Goran Eriksson
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I’ll publish How To Overcome All Fears Part 4 Monday.
Best wishes,
Andy
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Another excellent article Andy. Thank you.
Great to see you back active